Land of Misfit Socks: Knit Fit
January 29, 2011 § 5 Comments
Confession: I’m actually in the midst of knitting my own pair of socks. I’ve been a knitter for years but haven’t taken on too many projects that require many increases or decreases of stitches. Stuck on the same few rows for a while, I grew frustrated and decided to put down my project. I haven’t picked it back up in months. What is it about frustration that gets the better of us?
The word frustration is rather simple, but its fourth dictionary definition, according to dictionary.com is “a feeling of dissatisfaction, often accompanied by anxiety or depression, resulting from unfulfilled needs or unresolved problems.” The word’s predecessor comes from Middle English, “frustracioun” which connoted disappointment and deception. Reflecting on this emotion, what are we really feeling when we say we’re frustrated? I know it’s a common phrase to say, “I’m frustrated with the situation,” but when someone says it about a personal project, is it disappointment and anxiety felt in ourselves over our inability to fix or solve an issue inhibiting our end goal? Is it just another way of saying we’re disappointment in the self?
Clearly this goes far beyond a knitting project. Whether it’s in a job, a relationship, a bad habit, or just struggling with our inner demons, sometimes just the feeling of frustration, anxiety in the self, can stop us from plowing through the problem. Is it the fear of failing to find an alternate solution? Like the risk of searching for a new vocation, reaching a compromise with your partner, friend or family member, asking for help with a bad habit, sometimes you just have to admit that what you’ve tried before has failed and that’s no reflection on your skills or aptitude. It’s called perseverance, to persist in spite of difficulty. And I think it’s something that we can all admit to struggling with from time to time. I know I do.
So whether you’re a fellow blogger struggling to maintain your one a day or one a week posts, or you’ve lost your job and you’re looking for courage to try something new, or maybe you just can’t seem to fix your problems in a relationship, hold strong and rest easy in the fact that you’re not alone. Perseverance sometimes requires us to swallow our pride or expectations and find perhaps another way.
(Sock that’s being pitched today)